The Message

By PASTOR BILL MYERS,

Am I selfish and demanding?

Do others see us as someone who demands their own way?  Are we always arguing and debating trying to prove we’re right?  Do we really care about the desires and needs of others?  Do our actions and words reflect the lifestyle of Jesus?

Sometimes we should take a long look in the mirror and ask God, “Am I selfish and hard to please?   Do I find it difficult to work with others?”

“I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me.” (Galatians 4:20)

As we spend time in prayer and meditating on God’s Word and allow Him to work in our lives, we become more dependent on Him and less on ourselves.  As we become closer to our Father, yielding to His will, we become less interested in “our” ways and more interested in being Christ-like. It’s sad to see Christians being demanding on those around them, wanting their way and not being willing to compromise or cooperate with others.  These characteristics are reflected in marriages, the work place, churches, etc.  I believe selfishness, which is related to pride, has completely destroyed marriages, relationships, jobs, churches and believers’ groups.  Our selfish pride can rise up and demand our own way, expecting others to agree.

We’ve all heard and laughed about stories of church splits over the color of the new carpet or light fixtures.  Friends, we all have different opinions and desires, but as Christians we should learn to work and cooperate with others in love and kindness.  Just because we feel strongly about an opinion doesn’t mean we’re right and others wrong.  And if we get angry or irritated because others disagree with our opinions, we should ask God to forgive us and learn to compromise and work in love.

God desires for us to live in harmony with one another.  The key to unity is not demanding our own way!  When we put our complete trust in God, we can rest that He will work out our situation.  In return, we will gain peace.  No, we won’t have to argue, get stressed, or have our blood pressure rise from anger.

Friends, let’s work together in love and harmony with an understanding that no two people will always agree on everything. Prayer changes everything (including us)!

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.  Each of you should look not only to your interests, but also to the interests of others.” (Philippians 2:3-4)

Today, I encourage you to focus on blessing others and not fulfilling your own desires.  “Givers and peacemakers” are usually thankful and happy people so spend time with your Heavenly Father and learn to be thankful.  “If” you’ll allow, He’ll mold you into the image of Jesus.

Please remember that everyone may think and act differently than we do and that’s ok.